How is your morning going? Do you jump up half an hour after the 25th ringing of the alarm clock, turn on the kettle with your eyes closed and frantically wake up a child who needs to be in the garden in less than an hour? 5 minutes after collective washing, you simultaneously have breakfast, feed the baby and try to put on the first clothes you come across?
Obviously, you can't live like that. Therefore, the morning of a difficult day must begin...
On a hard day's evening
Remember your highchair by your bed, where your mother taught you to put everything you need in the morning? Take advantage of this pedagogical know-how. Prepare your baby's clothes in the evening, and he himself will pack a backpack with toys for kindergarten "for tomorrow. Get yourself such a "chair" too - so as not to look in the morning, like Bridget Jones, for intact tights and a blouse without a stain on the chest. Pack your bag in the evening, so that in the morning you can just take it and go. If you constantly lose your keys, organize a cute hook or shelf especially for them in a prominent place in the hallway. And if your husband’s signature morning phrase is not “I love you, my precious,” but “where the hell take my tie?”, then there is a strong feeling that the whole family needs their own “bedside chairs”.
Good morning
If everything is ready in the evening, then you no longer need to include a certain number of minutes in your schedule for the morning bustle and hassle. Divide the free time in half - for yourself and for cleaning. It might seem like a small thing, but if you spend about 10-15 minutes every morning, the house will always be clean. After all, you can wipe off dust with a cosmetic mask on your face. Now calmly wake up the heir - it’s time to wash up and go to kindergarten. Start an hourglass in the bathroom - while colored dust flows down in a thin stream, the child brushes her teeth, and you prepare breakfast. Before leaving the house, remember that you have to cook dinner in the evening. Transfer the necessary products from the freezer to the refrigerator - while you are away, they will have time to defrost on their own.
Hitrim: each time put things in order in different places, then gradually all areas of the apartment will receive your attention and shine. Dirty dishes in the sink can multiply. Therefore, it is better to rinse cups from your morning coffee and a bowl of baby porridge right away!
Good evening
Everything is prepared for the morning, now spend 15 minutes cleaning where necessary. Immediately place dirty clothes in the laundry basket (the highest economic aerobatics is to store light and colored clothes separately). If enough things have accumulated, you can start washing without waiting for the next day. And finally, the final “household” chord - wipe all surfaces in the kitchen, including the stove and sink, and splash a little disinfectant liquid into the toilet - everything will clean itself overnight. So, the house is clean, the children are sleeping, the well-fed spouse is peacefully watching TV - it’s time to give yourself a fragrant bubble bath.
Hitrim: If you “on the fly” go through the plumbing and the stove at least once every two days, they do not require any serious effort at all.
Weekend
Children love the circus. And also a zoo, cinema, museums and feeding ducks in the park. And of course, it’s better to spend Saturday and Sunday with your child, and not with mops, rags and vacuum cleaners. Small steps throughout the week - and now on the weekend there is no such devastation that you need to spend a lot of time cleaning up. And if cleaning cannot be avoided, involve the child in it to the best of his ability - a 5-year-old person is quite capable of laying out toys, dusting and vacuuming his room. Is your husband shirking? Remember: big boys play serious games. Let him load the dishwasher (honey, I'm afraid of this thing!) and solve the complex problem of optimizing the purchase of the entire list of necessary products, so that there is only enough left for drinks labeled “for adults.” The result is that it will take you no more than two hours to do household chores, the rest of the time can be devoted entirely to the family.
Clothes and toys - cleaning
How much time do you spend on:
- neatly arrange children's things in the closet that the child has already outgrown?
- collect toys that have long been no longer relevant for the baby in a drawer?
It seems that in five minutes you are unlikely to be able to cope with these tasks. The solution is simple - you need to quickly get rid of the junk: less things - less problems. Sort through your children's clothing, wash everything that is out of season, and pack it in special boxes. Get rid of what has become small: if you don’t dare throw it away, distribute things to friends whose children are younger than yours, advertise on forums and communities like “I’ll give it away for free.” Ask your nearest church parish if they take clothing to distribute to those who need it. Try selling what is still marketable via the Internet. If your subconscious bombards you with arguments like “maybe we’ll give birth to another one” or “what if in five years my sister has a child?”, the things, of course, can be left, but in any case they must be removed from the shelves of the “current” nursery clothes.
Hitrim: Clothes packed in vacuum bags take up much less space!
As for toys, if right now you distribute among your friends everything that the child is already tired of, throw out what has long been broken, and hide half of the rest away, the nursery will become much freer! In a month or two, you will give your offspring “long-forgotten old things” and send those cars and baby dolls that are in circulation now to a well-deserved rest... There is nothing more gratifying for a mother than a child who dived for a couple of hours into a box of toys that he has long ago did not see! And what savings!
We need to get rid of the junk quickly. Fewer things mean fewer problems.
Hitrim: large baskets for toys are extremely inconvenient - in order to find some little thing at the bottom, the child will inevitably dump all the contents on the floor. Shallow (ideally with transparent walls) boxes are much more practical. Beautiful stickers on each of them will help the child figure out where to put the dolls, where the animals are, and where only the parts of the construction set or the railway. “Go and collect your toys” is too global and boring a task for a preschooler. Break it down into small, manageable components like: “Put all the soldiers in this box/park all the big cars under the bed.”
Once you've gotten rid of clutter in your nursery, the most important thing is not to accumulate it again. Every time, trying to bless the heir with a gift, ask yourself whether he really needs this thing. One simple rule saves you from excessive clutter: as much as it comes, so much goes out. Have you brought a new toy into the house? Put one of the old ones away!
Washing children's clothes
Some parents claim that in nature there are children who never get stains on their clothes, fall into puddles, or tear their pants on tree branches. They talk a lot about such children, but no one has ever seen them. If you regularly deal with stains from paints, markers, fruit and soup, congratulations - you are the mother of a normal, living child! Therefore, if your child brought a “gift” from kindergarten, pour stain remover on this place immediately, and not a week later during washing.
Hitrim: Don’t skimp on children’s art supplies! The strokes of Chinese felt-tip pens wash off from children's clothes worse than marks from branded water-soluble ones. Cheap plasticine causes more trouble in cleaning and leaves nasty greasy stains on clothes, floors and furniture. Gouache washes off very poorly, so before dispensing paints, it’s worth taking off the young artist’s branded T-shirt.
Ironing
You have no problem with this item if you like ironing. And if not? Just stop doing it - most things hardly need an iron.
Can’t look at your five-year-old daughter in wrinkled jeans and suffer from insomnia on an unironed sheet? Try ironing every day for literally 15 minutes while you watch TV, then the process will seem less hopeless and exhausting.
Hitrim: Modern washing machines spin clothes so hard that they become too wrinkled. Use the "no crease" mode or set the spin power to a lower level. After this, the clothes need to be carefully straightened in the dryer so that you don’t have to iron them at all. If you dry things in the machine, take them out a little damp - it is better to iron shirts in this condition.
Remove the freshly ironed item before the children have time to jump on it, scatter it, or pour juice on it.
Cooking
If you really don't get anything done, cleaning, washing and ironing can be put off, you can sleep in the morning, and in the evening you can’t wipe the surfaces in the kitchen. You may even go hungry if you live alone. Men can be kept for some time on ready-made dumplings, although this makes them wither, dry out and uncontrollably rush “to the left.” But if you have a child in the house, you need to feed him fresh food regularly, even if you work 58 hours a day. In nature, there are mothers who preach the principle “a glass of juice replaces a bowl of soup,” but we are not on the same path with them.
How can you squeeze cooking delicious, healthy food into your busy schedule?
- Make a sample menu for the week and send your husband to buy groceries on the weekend - this saves time and money: men buy strictly according to the list and will never covet “that vase at a discount.” You can even buy bread seven days in advance - put the loaves in the freezer and take them out as needed.
- Immediately cut meat, poultry, fish into portions and freeze separately - this is for soup, this is for goulash, this is for frying. If you plan to make cutlets, you can immediately make minced meat, shape it, and then freeze it.
- Cereal porridge cooks very quickly, and sometimes does not require cooking at all: just pour boiling water or milk over everything and let it sit for a while. Breakfast is ready in literally three minutes - and the children are full and time is saved.
- Ideal mothers prepare multi-colored food in the shape of animals for their children and artistically decorate mashed potatoes with carrots. Buy colorful pasta and don’t worry about not having time to make edible bunnies three times a day. There is a simple way out even if you still crave achievement and exclusive food for your baby: one weekend, together with your husband and child, make small dumplings (spinach or a little beet juice will color the dough). Multi-colored dumplings made with your own hands are a wonderful dinner.
- The longest part of cooking soup is making the broth. To save time, a large pot of good broth can be poured into several containers and frozen for future use, and then only season the soup at a time for a week.
- There is a practice of freezing ready-made dishes in separate containers - mashed potatoes with cutlets, soup, meatballs with buckwheat. Try it, maybe sometimes these blanks will help you out.
Hitrim: Only frozen foods are placed in the freezer in tightly closed containers. Defrosting such food is easy - just put the desired boxes in the refrigerator overnight (quick “thawing” in the microwave can change their taste).
How to manage everything with our frantic pace of life? How to embrace the immensity - work, household chores, self-improvement? How to be a good mother and not forget about yourself?
Today, the women’s website will give readers some advice on how to manage their lives and work.
What do we want to accomplish and why do we not have time?
Nowadays, you have to spin like a squirrel in a wheel in order to have time to live and work. An ordinary average woman goes to work, runs a household (we wrote the article for you!), raises a child (and sometimes two or three!), often studies additionally or works part-time.
And I also want - enjoyable activities for you personally!
And if a man (again, an ordinary, average man!) spends much less time on household chores and caring for children, then a woman has to juggle a million things.
If you are exactly the kind of mother of a family who, for self-realization, needs to embrace the immensity: caring for children, regular activities with them, personal training, part-time work at home, reading books, communication, cooking delicious and healthy food, and so on, read our tips on how to keep up live, relax and work with such global plans for every day.
Whether or not we have time to implement our daily plans and fully relax is influenced by several factors.
These are, first of all, attempts to “cram” everything into your day at once, the desire to do household chores without outside help, and pronounced perfectionism, expressed in a craving for the ideal in everything.
How to have time to live and work: a guide to action
So what needs to be done so that, with such a busy life, the heap of unresolved matters does not lead to a constant state of stress? How can you manage to live, work, and relax easily and effortlessly?
Let's try to figure this out together with the women's site.
Only honestly
Answer yourself the question (just be honest!), what are you spending your time on and do you need it at all? In other words, are there activities in your daily routine that you can completely do without?
It is clear that household chores, educational games with the child and work have not been canceled. But whether you need, for example, to chat with your girlfriend for half an hour every day on the phone or watch a movie is up to you to decide. This also includes endless drifting on the Internet, reading magazines in large quantities, and regularly maintaining a sterile order.
Think about whether there are activities in your life that you can painlessly sacrifice in order to have time to live and work, and get rid of them.
Smart planning
Divide tasks into daily ones and those that can be done every two or three days. So, for example, you need to cook breakfast, work, work with your child and learn a list of foreign words every day, but you can go to the gym and knit at intervals of 2-3 days.
Make a plan (it will help you understand how to manage your life, work, relax, and devote time to hobbies) and hang it in a visible place.
Example: on Monday you have work, household chores, drawing with your child + hobby, on Tuesday you have work, household chores, music with your child + fitness.
Try to devote a strictly defined amount of time to everything, especially educational games with children. So, a child needs 5-10 minutes to draw, and an older child only needs 15-20 minutes a day.
Combine to get everything done
Try to combine - it’s difficult only at first glance. Very soon, this practice will become a habit and will allow you to accomplish twice as much.
What exactly can be combined? Watching a TV series and cooking dinner, walking with your child and learning foreign words, watching movies and writing emails.
It is also better to combine unpleasant activities with your favorite activities, for example, listening to music, this makes them stop seeming so boring. And of course, it is better to deal with difficult tasks in the first half of the day, so that in the remaining time you can do only what gives you pleasure.
Ask for help
If there is such an opportunity, there is no shame in asking your husband or mother-in-law to do at least a minimal part of the household chores. And it’s even better if there is an au pair or a nanny who comes for a few hours - sometimes their help is enough for a young mother to manage to live and work without sacrificing herself to housework.
Not only family members can act as helpers. These are also all kinds of household devices that make our lives easier, for example, a dishwasher and washing machine, which save us on average an hour and a half a day. A multicooker will greatly facilitate the chores of a mother of a large family in the kitchen.
Calmness and self-confidence
Sometimes there are so many problems that women fall into a real stupor. And here a simple affirmation can help: “I have time to do everything - work, study, take care of the house and relax.” Or come up with something of your own.
If you repeat it constantly, it really begins to help and mobilizes all the forces of the body.
Say no to perfectionism
Fight perfectionism. This means not double-checking everything a hundred times, but getting the job done quickly, even if not at an ideal level. It is also very important to set yourself realistic deadlines for completing tasks and allocate a certain period of time to each problem.
And if something doesn’t work out and it seems to you that in your case it is impossible to manage to live and work with such loads - don’t despair! After all, at least you did something today, and each of us has days that are less successful and productive than usual.
Reward for work
At the end of the day, after all your hard work and home deeds, come up with a reward for yourself. Let it be reading your favorite book, a fragrant bath, or something else. And for more global achievements - buying a beautiful dress or going to a massage parlor. Good motivation can give additional strength and not turn life into an endless Groundhog Day.
Thus, the problem of lack of time seems completely solvable; you just need to make a plan and try to at least partially stick to it.
And then everything will work out, if there is a desire.
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To keep up with everything, you need to learn to highlight the most important things. If you do household chores haphazardly, you will be very tired, but the most important things will remain undone. Keep a diary in which you indicate what must be done, and distribute secondary responsibilities on less busy days.Combine several tasks at once - this way you will finish faster and get tired less, because... You will constantly switch to different types of activities. While talking on the phone, you can wipe the glass and water the flowers, and while the soup is cooking, take out and hang the machine-washed laundry.
Involve members of your household in work
Be sure to delegate some of the responsibilities to your household members. Children are quite capable of collecting toys, vacuuming, washing dust, and caring for pets themselves. You can entrust your husband with taking out the trash, washing the dishes after dinner, and taking the children to school. Create a schedule for your loved ones and remind them of their responsibility to help you around the house.Don't buy your children too many toys. Cars and robots break down very quickly and within a couple of days after purchase, small plastic parts are lying all over the apartment. It’s better to buy educational toys: construction sets, board games, sets for children’s creativity. And teach your child to keep them in order after playing.
Save time
Conduct an audit in your home and get rid of everything that requires special care, washing and cleaning. A dozen figurines and vases on the shelf need to be dusted weekly. Do you really like them that much? After using a food processor, it takes a lot of time to wash it. Maybe it's worth purchasing a more ergonomic model? Also get rid of various rugs and capes - they only collect dust.Think about how to automate and simplify your homework as much as possible, use progress. For example, why wash a bunch of onesies every day if diapers exist? And don’t be afraid to wash baby clothes in the machine - when using special modes and additional rinsing, it is quite safe for them.
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The requirements dictated by work and your personal needs must be harmoniously combined - this is a fact. Because maintaining a work-life balance is what will make you a truly successful person.
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Don't strive for perfect cleanliness
An apartment is not a museum or an operating room; you shouldn’t strive for perfect cleanliness. There are many more important things - good relationships with household members, shared leisure time. Don't forget to take care of yourself too. Remember - your husband and children do not need a woman driven into the field of business, but a beautiful and kind mother and wife!Video on the topic
Time is money and, perhaps, our most important resource. Karl Marx considered free time to be a criterion of wealth. If you have free time, you can always invest it in self-development, leisure, communication with loved ones, or exchange it for money through work.
Time is very easy to measure by finding out where it flows.
The first leak is a “time trap”. It is expressed in the fact that a person forgets about the tasks that bring him closer to achieving his goal and does something extraneous. For example, instead of writing a course paper, many students play computer games. Every time you start a new activity, ask yourself the question: “Is what I am about to do bringing me closer to my goal?”
The second leak is a “time pocket”. This is a situation of forced inaction. Are you stuck in a traffic jam? Are you a train or plane passenger? Is someone late for a meeting with you? Congratulations – you have a pocket of time! This time can be used for self-development: audiobooks, solving logic problems, audio courses in a foreign language, etc.
The third leak is an interruption. If, having started one thing, you have to be distracted by another, an interruption occurs. In order to continue what you started, you need to delve into the essence of the issue again, and in addition, the risk of making a mistake due to inattention increases. If possible, organize your work so that the amount of interference is minimal: close instant messengers, turn off your phone, ask your colleagues not to disturb you for a while.
The fourth leak is “missed opportunities.” While doing everyday things that have become automatic, you can do something else at the same time, combining monotony and creativity. For example, cook two dishes at the same time. Vacuuming and rehearsing a speech for public speaking, exercising and making plans.
The fast pace of modern life, responsibilities, work, study - a person has to deal with all this. And, unfortunately, there is not always enough time not only for oneself, but also for doing any obligatory tasks. But you can organize your life. Thanks to this, you will stop spinning like a squirrel in a wheel.
Order in your head
As the saying goes: “The sharpest memory is dumber than the dullest pencil.” And indeed, how often have you forgotten to congratulate a friend on a memorable date, or a friend’s birthday. Perhaps they mixed up the day of an important meeting or completely forgot about it. There is only one way out - start a diary or planner. Write down birthdays, addresses and phone numbers in it. As well as important events and meetings that should take place throughout the year, month and week. In addition, spend 10 minutes every morning planning your day ahead. By writing down tasks on paper, you will commit them to memory.
Set aside 15 minutes a day for household chores
Make it a rule to set aside 15 minutes a day for routine tasks. Instead of putting off paying bills, doing laundry, cleaning until later, do at least one thing today. Involve your household members in this system as well. And you will see how much you can get done in a work week. And spend the weekend relaxing.
Get away from the computer
A modern person can’t live without a computer these days. But the computer is the main time waster. Another minute on Odnoklassniki, another video on YouTube, and you didn’t notice that it was time to go to bed, and things weren’t done. Get into the habit of sitting down at the computer after completing your assigned tasks. It will be hard at first, but then you will see how much you can do. And most importantly, you will stop feeling stressed by life passing you by.
Have a rest
When things start to get out of hand and you feel like you're in a hopeless situation, take a break. To regain a sense of harmony, you need to allow yourself a few hours of rest. Turn off your computer, put your phone on silent mode - you deserve time to be alone with yourself. To collect your thoughts, surround yourself with the smells of bergamot, rosemary, and citrus. To tone up, eat a handful of nuts and drink a cup of coffee with chocolate.
And don’t forget the basic truth - it’s impossible to do everything. Therefore, do not waste yourself on trifles and the desires of other people.
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There are many ways to kill time - and not one to resurrect it.
At the moment, I am running 3 projects on the Internet and I have quite a lot of things to do, and a competent approach to this issue helps me to manage them. But it wasn't always like this. I learned how to manage my time wisely in Anna Vsekhsvyatskaya’s course “I have time for everything.” This course is designed specifically for women. It helped me a lot, so now I recommend it to all women who have problems managing their time. And if you enter the promo code mir, you will receive a 10% discount when ordering a course.
In this article, I will share basic rules that will help you get much more done.
Now ask yourself: Do you use your time wisely, achieve your goals and clearly know what you want, or do you constantly put things off until tomorrow, don’t set goals for yourself and just go with the flow of life!?
Didn't think about it! How so? This is your life and you have only one!
Either you manage your time, or others begin to manage your time.
And in order to become the master of your time, you need to know the basics of personal effectiveness and follow them. In the video I talk about how I manage my time and what helps me get everything done.
1. Define your goals.
To do this, take the time to understand yourself and understand what you want from life: who to become, what to do and what to have. After all, nothing is impossible in the world and it depends only on us how interesting and happy she will be. Therefore, understand yourself and make a list of goals so that you have a clear understanding of which direction to develop and what to spend your time on.
2. Organize your day.
Scientists have proven that if you go to bed at 22.00 and get up at 06.00, your body will be much more rested, and in the morning you will feel cheerful and energetic. I recommend taking this into account. I try to stick to this routine, but if you can't go to bed at 10 pm, then at least spend no more than 8 hours sleeping a day. This time is enough to get enough sleep.
3. Plan ahead.
Choose a time and schedule all your tasks for the week. For example, I do this on Sunday. Write no more than 5–6 things a day so as not to overload yourself. Choose the optimal load for yourself. Since the goal is achieved not by the one who does many things at once, but by the one who does things leading to the goal regularly.
4. Break a big task into small steps.
This way you will gradually and regularly move towards achieving your goal. After all, if you don’t break a major task into steps, then it may be put off day after day, and you won’t know how to approach it.
As you can see, this business consists of small steps. When you write down these steps, the task will no longer seem so scary and you will complete it much faster. Therefore, be sure to write down all the tasks that consist of many steps for yourself, this will allow you to complete them much faster.
5. Turn off distracting signals.
6. Spend no more than one hour a day on social media. networks and mail.
Set aside a specific time for this. It is best to do this in the evening, when most of the important things are done.
7. Learn to say no.
There are a lot of distractions in the world we live in. Early in the morning a friend may call you and ask you to help him with something or go somewhere. Such an intervention can take up a lot of your time, and if it happens regularly, then you may not get off the ground at all. Yes, you need to help, but you shouldn’t do it to your own detriment.
When I lived on Koh Samui, every day I received offers to go somewhere, see some new place, or do something interesting. Yes, this is all, of course, great, but at the same time I understood that I had urgent matters, my own plan, and I said “no.” I decided for myself: I work two days, rest one day. This way I had time to see new places, go to the beach, and do all the necessary things.
Therefore, before you start changing your plans, think about what is more important to you and whether someone else’s request or proposal can be postponed to another day.
8. If the matter takes no more than 5 minutes, do it right away.
There is no need to write down such a thing in your diary as, for example, calling and making an appointment with the hairdresser. It’s better to call and make an appointment right away so as not to waste any more time on this.
9. Delegate.
You don't have to do everything yourself. You can entrust them to other people, machines or services that will do your work faster and better. Of course, in order to delegate some of your responsibilities, you need to pay. But it's not a lot of money. Many people are mistaken that delegation is only available to wealthy people. In fact, this is not the case. You can turn to a freelancer who will take on any task on your project and do it much faster and with better quality, since he is an expert in this matter. This could be writing sales text, programming, creating a banner or logo, and much more. You can find such freelancers on the website work— zilla. com . Carrying out such small tasks as a freelancer is quite inexpensive.
Outsourcing necessary in cases where you want to transfer some business for a long period of time. For example, you can outsource bookkeeping or house cleaning services to such companies. You can also hire a personal assistant if you have a lot of small tasks that do not require professional knowledge. You can hire such an assistant for a long time.
In addition to people, you can seek help from services that will simplify your work. For example, instead of manually writing posts on VKontakte, you can turn to a service that will automatically publish posts in your group.
You can also ask for help from various machines. Now there are a large number of them. They are especially good at helping with housekeeping. These could be multicookers, dishwashers, washing machines, anything. Also, instead of wasting time on shopping, you can order the necessary goods online, which will also save your time.
10 Analyze.
At the end of the week, see if you have completed all the things you planned. If not, then try to understand where you went astray and what exactly prevented you.
If you feel that despite planning you are still not using your time effectively enough, take a time tracking exercise. To do this, every day for a week, write down all the things you do, and also indicate the time during which you do something. Thanks to this, you will understand what distracts you and takes up the necessary time. Sometimes you take on too much work and the next day you don't feel like doing work at all.
By analyzing your experience, you will develop an ideal system for managing your time and use it effectively, which means achieving your goals. Consequently, your life will change dramatically in the next couple of years.
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Perhaps one of the most painful questions for a young mother is where to find time for everything. Who would explain how to manage to do household chores when you have small children and by the evening everything falls out of hand and it seems that you are the worst mother in the world... Sound familiar? Then read on.
Before reading the article, take a sheet of paper from your notebook and write on it what you would like most in life, but haven’t gotten around to yet. Write it down and carefully place it in a secluded place in the kitchen, under a jar of rice. Because…
All day long you spin and spin: “Okay, now I’ll cook lunch, then I’ll make an appointment with the doctor, then I also wanted to read about the schools in the area, I’ll go take a shower, if I’m very lucky, i.e. If the children are still sleeping, I’ll collect the toys for the hundredth time - and that’s it! Oh, no, you still need to throw the laundry in the washing machine, pay for kindergarten and separate the wheat from the chaff, that is, pick out the plasticine from the cat's food bowl. And mom called twice already for something...” While she was pouring in the washing powder, my son screamed in the bedroom - he wants me to lie with him... I probably need to turn off the stove, otherwise everything will burn. When will this end?.. How to manage everything?
How to keep up with housework for mom
Select an answer:
- A) Never and in no way.
- B) We need to try to approach the problem in a different way.
- C) Even if I don’t manage to get it under control until the end of my days, I will still try.
So, let's take it in order. Before you try to embrace the immensity, I suggest you seriously ask yourself:
Who inspired me that I have to do everything?
Perhaps you have some stereotypes or images circulated by the media about a superwoman? Or did your husband develop such expectations as a result of the same images circulated in the media? So, the husband of one of my friends, coming home from work, was often disappointed: he was greeted by his wife in a tracksuit, tired. She spent the whole day with an infant who was screaming from tummy pain and not sleeping at all. Although the apartment was tidied up, it was not as good as he was used to; there was dinner, but, as they say, without soul and imagination: “Meat in French? How boring! Well, why does he need all this?! He imagined it completely differently: he gets off the white horse, opens the door, and a beautiful wife in a cute dress and with curled curls falling on her shoulders comes out to meet him. Yes, and neatly dressed, loudly laughing children run out to him shouting: “Hurray! Dad has come! It is clear that there is no need to mention the cleanliness of the house and the set table.
No, don’t get me wrong: I don’t want to say at all that a husband has no right to expect something like that and that he shouldn’t pay any attention to his appearance. It is important to understand what and to whom you are trying to prove. Maybe you are a perfectionist in your own right, but as a child you were always held up as an example to everyone?
How am I paying for this?
Your self-esteem, mood and health suffer from this. You become irritable. What happens if the owner of the home becomes tired, dissatisfied with herself, and feels oppressed by circumstances? That's right - everyone will get it!
How to get everything done?
Realizing that having time to do everything is a utopia. But it’s quite possible to get a lot done. However, something will inevitably have to be sacrificed. And you decide what will be done and what should be abandoned. Agree that ending the day with the understanding that you managed to do the most important thing, although you didn’t get to watch “Fashionable Verdict,” is much more pleasant than falling asleep with the thought: “Eh, I didn’t have time to do anything again.”
We set priorities, cross out everything unnecessary and let's go! Just? Let’s say you need to feed a child, apply for a passport, make an appointment with a doctor, take a shower. You start to weigh it, and the answers don’t come so easily and unambiguously...
I do this. Write down all the things that need to be done. Firstly, so as not to forget them, and, secondly, to free your head (this will create a certain lightness, if not of being, then of thoughts for sure).
Think about what is really important to you, what you would really like. Imagine yourself as you would like to see yourself. For example, important goals may be your health, beauty (physical or spiritual), career, a well-groomed child, his comprehensive development, a good relationship with your husband, or a new husband if he doesn’t exist. Thinking about these questions is a serious matter, take your time. Have you written? Nothing else comes to mind? Put the piece of paper aside and come back to it the next day, or a couple more days, until the picture becomes clear. It's worth it. You can peek at the leaf under the jar of rice.
7 time management tips from personal experience
1 Decide what one thing you could do for each important item that you have identified. Write it down.
2 Keep a diary. For example, I simply print out a template for the week or month (fortunately, you can find different versions of calendars on the Internet and in the office package or make your own).
3 Write down one or two things for each day from this list. Few? Start with the minimum. The trick is that we often miss the most important things, of a strategic nature, behind the rapid kaleidoscope of everyday routine. It’s all, as a rule, urgent and sucks you in to the top of your head. By doing one important thing every day, but regularly, you will move much further towards your goals rather than waiting a long time for the right time to devote yourself entirely to it. It’s like exercise: 10 minutes each is better than 2 hours once a week. If over time you realize that you can easily cope with this volume, take weights.
4 Now return to the to-do list from the first point. Select regular ones (such as cleaning, cooking, etc.) Break them into parts, and scatter the parts by day of the week. For example, Monday: vacuum, Tuesday: wash the floors, etc. Or, if you prefer, like this: Monday: cleaning the kitchen, Tuesday: hallway, etc. From my own experience I can say for sure: the find is simple and magnificent. Eating the elephant piece by piece, you've probably heard this metaphor. A small piece is more likely to be chewed, digested and – importantly – enjoyed rather than giving you indigestion (read: aversion to cleaning).
5 When I started a comprehensive cleaning once a week, I almost never could manage, say, washing a chandelier or wiping dust on the top shelves of a bookcase. With the new approach, this can be planned and implemented without unnecessary stress. “Fracial” completion of tasks is also more natural when you have children, especially small ones, especially several. This makes it possible to quickly switch from one task to another, swap them, combine them - in short, it’s easier to navigate the situation.
6 Now we are left with irregular affairs. Attach them to different days of your calendar too.
7 And finally, all that remains is to hang this calendar-diary in a prominent place and start the morning by reading it. Don't forget to check it periodically throughout the day. Gradually, you will notice how unimportant tasks and so-called “time wasters” disappear by themselves (or at least shrink to an acceptable size).
Just try it. I am sure that if you manage to achieve at least 20% of the above, they will inspire you to do more! And you will no longer be tormented by thoughts of how to manage to do household chores - you will have small, clear goals and the pleasure of achieving them!
And lastly, especially for perfectionists. If during the day it was not possible to carry out what was planned, then... it’s okay! Don't reproach or scold yourself. On the contrary, look at the checkmarks or crossed out items (this is a matter of taste) and praise yourself for them. It also happens that you wake up and realize that, well, you have no desire to sort out the closet in your bedroom today. Instead, I’ll do tomorrow’s task, for example, wash the windows, and the next morning, lo and behold, inspiration for the closet will come.
