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In this article I will answer a question that goes like this: “ The girl said she loves someone else?»

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So, the guy has the following situation, which he cannot figure out.

The guy at work saw beautiful girl and he really liked her, then he told the girl about this and gave her a gift and a bouquet of flowers on March 8, the girl accepted him and said that she really liked the gift, she said, that she has a boyfriend, they have a strange relationship, but she still loves him.

The guy says that this girl smiles at him all the time, maintains eye contact, but at the same time refuses to give him a phone number.

Let's look at this situation from the girl's point of view.

1. The girl is behaving quite strangely she behaves incorrectly, since the girl must immediately let the guy know whether she needs him or not.

An adequate girl if she has a boyfriend and a serious relationship will never accept a gift from another man, who confesses his feelings to her and gently sends him away. Those. The girl must answer clearly that the guy will not succeed with her.

In other words, the strangeness of this girl is that that it doesn't give a clear signal, but on the contrary misleads the guy. She does this in order to play with the man, as she is very bored.

What should a man do in this situation?

The guy took one step forward, now he needs to take 2 steps back, and these steps must be very explicit.

The guy should stop paying attention to her, stop showing any interest in her, even if he really wants to talk to her again and flirt, there is no need to look at this girl, catch her eye, etc.

At the same time, you can start communicating with the girl who is next to her, even if the guy doesn’t like her.

Thus the guy creates competition and the girl begins to understand that she is about to lose her boyfriend, and he will leave for another, although initially he gave gifts only to her. As a result, she starts hanging around him or getting jealous!

So, back to the question: “ What if a girl loves someone else?»

1. The guy needs to be very polite to her.

Don't be rude, don't ignore her on purpose, don't be offended by her, the guy just needs to ignore her

1. The guy doesn't need to give more gifts.
2. You need to raise your rating with the help of your colleagues.

So that colleagues constantly talk about the guy, about his advantages, skills, etc. Thus, the girl will learn more and more positive information about this guy through her colleagues.

1. Always smile at people around you.
2. You need to communicate with this girl as with a friend, as with a childhood friend...

Thus the guy will communicate with her as equals, and will not curry favor with her and look at her with loving eyes. Thus, the girl will understand that the guy is cool and you can try to go somewhere and chat with him!

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Hello friends! My name is Vitaly Okhrimenko, and today we will briefly talk about a topic that is pressing for many of us, when you love her, and she loves someone else. It often happens when a guy says, “I love her.” And then he sadly adds: “...but she loves something completely different.” What to do when you love sincerely, truly, to the point of losing your mind, and the girl chose another guy? The situation is quite complex, but not uncommon, almost classic.

What to do if a girl loves someone else

What to do if your loved one was taken away by another? He stole it from you, defeated you not by force, but by some other means. When the word “love” brings only pain and disappointment. After all, he will not be able to love her the way you love her. You are ready to give her everything, raise her to the level of the 7th heaven, carry her in your arms. But he's still the favorite. So what should we do, should we really give up? Or gather your courage and rush into battle? Into a battle where there are no rules, where you don’t know what or how to do, where the winner will get the most expensive prize.

This article is unlikely to suit those who take the issue of relationships lightly, those who are looking for temporary love. Now I will try to simulate the situation for those people who have found the meaning of their lives in the girl they love. So, for the sake of accessibility, I will describe the story of one guy, and then I will try to figure out what practical tips can help in achieving the goal.

Main character This story I met a pretty girl. The meeting with this girl was unremarkable. And he never could have imagined that she would take up so much space in his life. The girl was sweet and funny. From the moment they met, the guy knew that she was in love with someone else, and when they quarreled with this other guy, he sincerely empathized with her. But over time, our hero began to notice changes in his attitude towards this girl; he suddenly felt a “force of attraction” towards her. Friendship smoothly turned into sympathy, and sympathy into love. And the boy understood that this was wrong, but he could no longer stop. He was silent about his desires and dreams. But the moment came when he realized that he was also not indifferent to this girl. Only her damned conscience did not allow her to show her feelings. He loves something like this or that, but he also has “special feelings” for our guy.

The guy also knew that he had no moral right to force the girl he loved to do anything. I tried to restrain myself, realizing that the girl was afraid to rush and ruin everything. As with one, so with the other. But at the same time I understood that I could not endure these torments for long. That the time will come when he will give the girl a choice. He doesn’t want her to suffer, he just doesn’t want to suffer himself. He doesn’t want to go to extremes, but he sees that this love triangle cannot lead to something good. He sees her, sees how she looks at him, feels her feelings. The desire to be close is growing, and willy-nilly he begins to wonder: does she love the one or the other. And if he loves, why then is he drawn to our hero? He doesn’t want to spoil his relationship with her, but physically he can’t be a friend anymore.

Most of all he wants to know what to do if the girl he loves loves another. Wait until she understands her attitude, loves you and leaves this or that other? Or it’s better to forget her, or maybe change your attitude and remain friends, instead of tying your lives together.

The story is real, and our boy is not the only one to whom such cupid tricks happened. Many young people find themselves in similar traps, not knowing what to do right. But not everyone manages to get out of such love affairs correctly. What advice should I give to this guy? What is the right thing to do?

What to do if a girl chooses someone else

Our hero is very lucky, because he is interesting to the object of his affection, and this is such a big plus. It would have been much worse if the girl had not noticed him as a man at all. And if she cannot decide to take a serious step only due to the prohibitions of her conscience, then she already had to think about this guy as more than just a friend, and that’s good. This means that the lady of her heart shows more than just friendly feelings towards our guy. We can correctly conclude that he has a chance, the main thing is to take advantage of it. You need to choose the right model of behavior and follow it.

How to win a girl if she loves someone else

The first thing you need to understand is that there are times when inaction is better than any action. For example, there is no need to express your desire for this girl too sharply. In the case when she is very worried about the inability to cope with her feelings, her worries will increase if the guy tries to express his feelings in physical form. Don't force yourself with kisses and hugs. Everything should happen at ease, so that the girl does not feel like a horse driven into a corner. She should feel that she decided to take the step herself. If a girl decides to take this action (or thinks that she has decided), in essence she will make her choice. After all, just one kiss can open her eyes to her feelings. And only after this can we expect that she will leave that other boyfriend and make our boy happy with her love. Even if the girl is not yet ready for such a drastic decision, the chance of our hero after a passionate kiss will greatly increase.

If a girl loves someone else what to do

It is worth remembering that every person has a whole mountain of his own shortcomings. And you can easily play on the shortcomings of that first guy, cleverly contrasting against his background. In any case, he does things that our girl doesn’t like (now, she has already become ours). You can analyze her dissatisfaction and show yourself in these places from the opposite side. You shouldn’t go out of your way to prove to her that her boyfriend is so bad. In general, there is no need to speak badly about him, a feeling of protest may arise in the girl, she may rush to his defense, and then everything is lost. You need to fight using “white PR”, using your best qualities as an argument to counterbalance his worst. Women, unlike men, subconsciously look for the best guy, and such a trick will definitely play on her consciousness.

It happens that it is really difficult for a girl to choose, she is already accustomed to her boyfriend, and then someone unexpectedly bursts into her life. To win her, you need to become a knight for her, who will not impose himself, but always appears at the right moment. And most importantly, this knight loves her and is ready to prove his love.

The above situation is not the most complicated of possible options"she loves someone else." There may be a whole bunch of interference, such as family and children. If you love a girl, and she chose someone else, describe your situation in the comments and together we will try to find the only correct model of your behavior.

Well, so that this never happens to us, we need to know, and.

Love each other back. Good luck to everyone in their love relationships!

With notes of empathy, Vitaly Okhrimenko .

51 comments on ““I love a girl and she loves someone else””

Hello, I met a girl, it turned out very unusual, if necessary, I’ll write later.
We talked and talked about how unusual our acquaintance was.
We agreed to meet tomorrow.
a few hours later she removed me from her friends list, I didn’t understand what was going on at all. She said that we’ll talk tomorrow.
The next day I wrote and she said that she had made peace with her boyfriend. I’m sorry.
I said that I would not back down and she still offered to meet again.
We walked, everything was fine, she seemed to like everything.
invited her to meet again later, to which she refused, saying that she did not want to reassure me, that she loved the guy and it was better for us not to communicate anymore.
but I understand that she doesn’t love him, so that then she wouldn’t go with me and wouldn’t get acquainted at all. Besides, she complained to me about him before that they often quarrel.
I didn’t write an answer to her refusal. A day later I received a call from her, I was happy, but she called just to apologize again, said that the guy was looking at all her calls and messages and repeated again that it was better for us not to communicate anymore.
I didn’t answer anything and hung up. After a while, she threw me into an emergency on VKontakte, although I didn’t write anything to her and didn’t pester her in any way.
and a little later she completely deleted the page.
I do not understand anything.

Hello. I'll start right away with the topic. I once met a girl, I really liked her, we talked to her, she always smiled at me sincerely when we met. And one day, closer to midnight, she wrote to me that nothing would work out for us. And although everything was fine with her. It was as if a lever had been turned on her. What to do? I'm at a loss. And please send it to me by email. what should I do?

I came from math school to grade 4B and after one week a girl came into class who had a sore throat and I fell in love with her at first sight but I’m afraid to approach her. The girl's name is Lisa. She sometimes talks to me, but very rarely. Once she told me how stupid our classmate was, she also asked when the math test was and she also talked about her birthday. And that's it! She is friends with someone else and probably even loves him .Help! Tell me what to do!

I'm 16, I fell in love with a girl, we met in the pool, she had a crush on me for 4 months, at the time when she had a crush, I didn't love her, and then when we started communicating more and hanging out, I fell in love with her very much in the summer, we walked with her every day from 12 noon to 10 pm and we walked hand in hand through the park and we walked like this to her house, I really liked walking with her hand only the only thing is, unfortunately, she doesn’t like me, she doesn’t like me ((me every day every hour every minute I think about her what I want in life not when it doesn’t work out

Hello everyone, I am 12 years old and studying in the 7th grade. I love my classmate since 6th grade. At first I didn't like her. But one day she sat behind me with her friend. And she spoke in a whisper. They didn't know that I could hear everything. And suddenly she said that she loved me only in a whisper to her friend. And since then I fell in love. And today she feels only sympathy for me. And he loves my best friend. What should I do to make her love me like she did in 6th grade???

Hello, my name is Ivan, I used to date a girl for about 4 years at a distance, of course) but we saw each other often). And that’s the problem, I’m very used to her, let’s say I love her madly, I gave gifts, I constantly took care of her, and what happened, I made a terrible mistake in my life, I didn’t change it, I didn’t change it, I met someone else, of course, she found out now we’ve known each other for about 5 years and she’s because this case of not believing me and plus loving another and I can’t forget her. What should I do? She considers me a close friend and I want us to be together, what is the right thing to do??? I will be very grateful

Hello, I have this problem, I’m in 7th grade and the girl I love in 8th grade, at first I just watched her, but I wanted to get to know her better, I started writing to her on VK, I wrote for six months and suddenly she has a status: married, what should I do? I love her so much

Hello, my name is Alexey, I had an unpleasant situation. When I was in the 7th grade, one girl liked me, but I didn’t attach much importance to it, and I didn’t want a relationship with her, because I liked the other one, so half a year passed, I moved to the 8th grade, and one day I got sick. She called me, and that’s how our communication began, we’ve been communicating for more than a month, regularly, we walk together, we talk on the phone until 2 a.m., I began to understand that I fell in love with her, but as soon as I wanted to talk to her, confess feelings, that same evening, right before my eyes, another friend left to talk to her, and he invited her to meet, she agreed. Then my world went from under my feet, I realized that I was late and was a complete crit, at first everything in their relationship did not work out, however, no matter how badly the guy behaved, she tolerates him. And it seems they fell in love with each other, but at that time I became her best friend, to whom she tells secrets, shares her experiences, we hug for a long time, even almost kissed several times. But apparently she can’t do that, what should I do? Please tell me, I'll be waiting. Thank you in advance.

Hello, I had almost the same situation as with the guy from the story. Only at the end I wrote to her that it was better for us to stop communicating and that I was ruining her relationship (she often fought with her boyfriend because of me) and I wanted her to be happy. And I was about to give up, but the next morning I realized that I couldn’t lose her, I began to sincerely apologize and ask that we communicate as before. But she could no longer forgive me. And in the end she added me to the blacklist, but I can’t see her because I’m in another city. I don't want to lose her. Help with advice

Hello, a year ago I met a girl, she didn’t really want to talk to me, but I tried, we joked, talked, played. Everything happened so unexpectedly, she writes to me: I don’t need your gifts, I love someone else

Hello, this is the situation. We've been dating this girl for over 2 years. A year ago I was drafted into the army, and when I arrived, I said that my feelings for me had faded away and appeared for my dance partner, with all the further actions. Before the army, everything was great with us. But after that, problems really started. Every day she separates more and more from me and begins to gravitate more and more towards someone else. He cannot choose one of us. Either he’s afraid to hurt me, or he’s completely unsure about him, although I’m more inclined to the first option. Help me with advice on how to bring her feelings back to me.

Hello. I dated a girl for four years and loved her very much. During all this time, I didn’t even think about another girl, I wanted to be truly faithful, so that she would understand how serious I am about her. They planned to get married and start living together. Recently a guy came from the army with whom he secretly communicated a year ago, three days after he came she broke up with me. I tried for a month to improve the relationship, I was ready to do anything to fix everything, and I succeeded, we started dating again, everything was fine. And then she again began to treat me very badly, she said that she didn’t give a damn about everything, she said that she didn’t love me. I tried very hard to make peace with her, I opened my whole soul how dear she was to me. I know that that guy doesn’t care about her and only wants sex, but she doesn’t understand that. Tell me what to do, I love her very much and want her back.

Hello, my situation is this, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a long time, everything was fine, until I became friends with a guy at work, they started communicating very nicely and she stopped paying attention to me, I cursed, was jealous, she says that she always has this communication with friends and she doesn’t understand that she is going too far, in general, she now communicates with another friend like this and he also says that this is friendly communication, there is no need to be so jealous... but now she generally pushes me away with various excuses like I don’t have time, this is impossible, they will see it, it hurts, you go there, I went there and so on... and strangers ask me why she behaves this way if you are dating her... she constantly lies to me, just like she lies, so that I would back off and not start arguing with her , hides a lot from me, if before we decided everything together, now strangers tell me about some of her actions, she just doesn’t talk about what she wants to do or has already done, then she says that she didn’t want to talk because I’ll quarrel with her again her because of this, but what she’s doing is completely wrong and she knows it but she does it anyway and understands that I’ll find out about it and we’ll quarrel about it, but she doesn’t care about it and then screams that she’s tired of swearing... that’s all because of her friend, please tell me what should I do, how can I get her back????(((((

Hello. It was like this: I moved to 4th grade, saw a girl, fell in love. In the 5th grade I wrote a note that I loved her and threw her a briefcase. Then 6th grade, I sent her on VKontakte “choose a smiley”, she chose it or she did it. It was like I had to buy her some chewing gum, I bought it and gave it to her at school, she said thank you. After that, she wrote me a voice message on VK “I love you, you are looking after me” and so on, she said that she had loved me since September 6th grade (it was January 2016 at that time), but already in 2017, February 14, ST. VALENTINA she said that she loves someone else and blocked me on VK

Good afternoon. In 2009 I fell in love with a girl. We dated for 2 years, but due to some facts we had to break up. At 14, I met her again and we realized that the feelings remained. And everything would have been fine, but at the end of 14 I was drafted into the army, since I had a diploma in hand. While I was in the army, my brain began to break down, and we decided to separate so as not to injure each other. After demobilization, I didn’t think about relationships at all. And then in 2017 I met her again. She's already with someone else. We recently moved in together.
We started communicating with her. Her boyfriend doesn't see her point blank. At least that's what she says. On weekends at the computer, on weekdays at work. Well, I won’t say that I run after her, but I try to help as much as possible. She herself says that she wants to leave him. And now I don’t know what to do. I don’t think I’m small, but I feel like a schoolboy). I don’t have a car, I live alone in a rented apartment, work...

I teach myself, I don’t bother anyone. I meet her after the session (and during it). Word for word, a lot in common. Then we spend the evening together or via SMS. We invited each other for holidays a couple of times. Almost reached the upper register. As a rogue, I know what those who hit on girls look like, so I immediately noticed the “tail” of my new friend. In general, after some time, everyone was overwhelmed by studying, stress, everything. And I thought it was time to admit how the tense days had subsided. She couldn't say anything. Just that I'm irreplaceable or something like that. In the end, I agreed to date my rival out of banal affection.
And here the question is: is she a fool or did I almost end up at an alternate airfield? And what was she even thinking, a girl who once didn’t trust guys before my arrival?

It so happened that suddenly she appeared in life, everything was fine, at first there was friendship, then we became closer, we felt good, we went for a walk and we felt good, it was fun, but then one guy appeared, I felt that we had become to move away even though I knew that they were not dating.

Hello. I dated a girl for almost a year. I'm 23, she's 26. We had good evenings and great lovemaking. There were quarrels because she could not find a normal job, she took out a loan to help her with debts and help her with a problem that was not pleasant for her. She visited her sisters a lot, they went to the club. True, she introduced me to her parents and they were grateful for what I was doing for her and so on. New Year met them. Gave her bouquets, gave her a ring, gave her a phone. And she gave me souvenirs. In general, she did not help me with the loan; I generally managed it myself. There were times when I needed help. She tried to help, I saw it and still helped. I tried to meet with her more often. Sometimes it pushed me away from her, when she was angry about her life, I supported her. Then everything was fine. She wanted to live separately from her parents, to have a wedding with me. I couldn't give it because I'm studying. There were yelling because of this, of course. We corresponded and wrote our emotions over the telephone conversation too. In general, at the beginning of April she went to her sister’s dacha without telling me and she didn’t call me much when she was with her sisters. But this time she didn’t warn or say anything at all, I made a lot of calls to her and wrote all sorts of nonsense. She finally wrote to me after two days. It's like she forgot her phone at her sister's house. I didn’t believe it and lost my temper. Then she said that she supposedly didn’t want a relationship with me anymore and there were no more feelings. And she said let's remain friends. I didn't agree. He began to pursue her and whine into the phone. There was a contact when I decided to check on her, he said that I rented an apartment for us. Then she wanted to see me and immediately live in an apartment with me. Then I flared up that you were only falling for the apartment. She called me in tears. Then I wanted to meet her to apologize and give her her favorite roses. She said what time. I got ready and came to her house. Then she writes that she can’t and she’s tired after work. I wrote that I was waiting for you with a bouquet of roses. I waited for three hours and she didn’t come home. And I lost it again. And she said that now don’t write, don’t call. IN in social networks blacklisted everywhere. A week later I call her and she says that she is already living with a new guy separately from her parents. And she said that she would return everything to me, every penny. In general, I let her go. Yesterday I called to ask about the debt. And again it inspired me, I started whining to her and saying all sorts of things. A lot for her in one day. She says that she is in love with a guy. And he says, leave me alone.
What to do? How can I get it back?

Hello, my name is Arthur, I’m 20 years old. I met a girl at work, she’s 24, she’s married, no children, but they’ve been together for a very long time. Before me, she also had a relationship on the side, at first for 4 months we just talked at work and corresponded, after a while I realized that I really like her. One day, after a corporate party after New Year’s Eve, she invited me to visit her, I needed to spend 3 hours somewhere, then I had to meet a friend, but that’s not the point. My husband was at work that night. We sat, drank and went to bed together, she didn’t even suspect that this could happen, and I realized that this was the very moment when I needed to confess my feelings and there wouldn’t be another chance like this, I told her everything I thought and she accepted it , she liked me too. We kissed all night and she gave me a blowjob. Then we dated her for 4 months, that is, we spent time together and had sex. During this time, I fell in love with her very much and said that I wanted her to be with me, but she warned me that it would be difficult for her to leave everything and leave. She did not love her husband, she said that he was a good support for her. Her husband, over time, began to suspect that something was wrong, and decided to check on her, he said that at night, and he was at home, she and I were at the hotel at that time, he calls her and asks where she is, she said that she was at home and here he is He tells her that he doesn’t watch her at home. That’s where it all started, since we knew each other personally, she said that she was with me and we were just walking. He said that it was all over, and did not show up at home for a month, said that as soon as she received her salary, she would rent an apartment and move. Having learned about this, I also decided to move, my mother and I have an apartment in which we used to live and we had already had conversations that I would soon have to try to live alone, and then I realized that this was the very moment to accept loved one, but still she rented an apartment and we moved in on the same day, she went to my place and I went to my place. She didn’t appear in the new rented apartment for a week, she lived with me, everything was fine, perfection. This was my first long relationship with such love, I became very attached to her and I liked absolutely everything, but then I began to notice that something was wrong, I asked her, she said that she missed him, left me and began to impose herself on him, write, call, etc. although he didn’t care about her, he answered reluctantly. She still continued to come to me, but at the same time she sought forgiveness from him. I achieved it. Purely on her own initiative, no one was waiting for her there. She moved back a month later, but nothing has changed at home, he doesn’t understand her, constantly criticizes her, doesn’t say that he loves her, shows her that she doesn’t cook every day and about this she constantly cries to me, says that I’m in these moments better, I understand her in everything, I know how to talk, talk eye to eye about problems, etc. When she returned to him, I was very worried, drank, tried other girls and realized that this was not the same at all, I was not myself. And then at work I noticed that something was wrong with her, I told her that I found a girl on his phone and found out that while they were traveling he was dating a younger girl, he took her everywhere, took her, introduced her to friends, which he did not do with wife. But she’s not sure whether there was sex, although it’s a no-brainer that if he took her home, there’s a high probability that there was sex. She came to me again, crying, saying that she was disgusted with everything, but she was ready to forgive him everything, because it turns out that she realized that she loves him, although I am sure that this is not so. And he told her that everything was not so clean there and she was not the only one who distinguished herself by going to the left. I told her that she chose it herself, and that I really want her to be happy and not make a mistake in her choice, and if she realizes that she made a mistake, then it wouldn’t be too late. It’s very difficult for me, I told her that if she went there, then we stop all communication, even greetings at work. I love her very much and I want her to be with me, I told her about this more than once, she also has feelings for me, but it began to seem to me that I was some kind of support group for her, but I respect her choice and want her to be happy because she is a good girl, but not a certain one. I understand that it is difficult to leave 7 years of life for my sake. if she were not married and did such things, I would have left her long ago. This is the only reason why I still want something from her. Actually, this is how Santa Barbara is in my life. I know that this will not end and she will come to me again. What do i do?

Vitaly... The same story as with this hero happened to me... what should I do... what should I write to her... please answer..

Hello, I have a problem, I need a lot of advice, in short, last year I fell in love with a girl ((at that time I was 17 years old) although I had relationships up to 4 times), well, we talked to her for 3 months, I confessed, and she replied like I don’t live here and therefore nothing can happen to us (yes, she lives a little more than 300 km from my house, but every year she comes to our town with relatives for the whole summer) then she left, but she’s very good we communicated on social networks, she started to trust me very well to tell me very personal things, then I asked her, do you at least like me, but she said, and there were hearts in the messages, but then autumn, winter, spring passed and I still don’t like her I loved her for a long time and the feelings did not fade away, although I suffered because of her, and even in winter I thought we needed to get rid of these feelings of our very, well, very good friend and tried to build a relationship with her, but in the end I broke up very quickly because I loved her and couldn’t get rid of my feelings, but then the girl I love arrived, I offered to meet, to which she replied like she only feels friendly feelings when I get her and told me not to consider him a bitch for hurting me, she doesn’t want that and she doesn’t like this conversation either, but she doesn’t like her heart, and she also says that nothing will come of it because she’ll go to see her again. to my mother (and I thought that I could also get there, find a job there to be near her, a friend will go there to see his brother to earn money and I also want to, and he can take me with him) and now I don’t even know what to do except I don’t need anyone for her and I can’t imagine my life without her, I have a hard time getting through this communication on social networks, and now I’m interested in almost nothing and I always just want to be next to her.

Hello, this is the story: in 2014, at one holiday, I met a beautiful girl, we spent two fun days, she turned out to be the niece of my cousin’s father. She left, it turned out that she lives in Moscow but is almost always in Ufa, I live outside 200 km from Ufa. She and I communicated very well, but then something went wrong and we stopped communicating. Then we met in 2016 when I came to my sister, they live separately in the same two-story house. I was there for a week, during that week we communicated well and even slept almost together. We had a fun night (we just talked, listened to music, watched videos, clips). I left, and her best friend wrote to me that she loved me, but could not tell me about it. I wrote to her and we started dating. A couple of months later she said that she just likes me, and she doesn’t love me that way, it’s not right. We broke up, she suggested we just remain friends and I agreed. All this time, she and I communicated well and congratulated each other on the holiday. And in 2017, at the beginning of summer, she wrote to me that she would come to my city with her sister, and when I was bored, I offered to play for the company, but she said that she plays poorly and said that when she arrives, I will teach her. When she left, I called her, of course, they arrived, we went to play on the console, the club was closed, which made us a little upset. We walked and chatted, decided to have a barbecue at home, and she and I went shopping. In the evening, my sister decided to stay overnight with us (which we were happy about). When everyone fell asleep, I went to her room and decided to just hang out. As a result, we looked at each other’s phones all night, and only went to bed at 5 o’clock in the morning. When they woke up they left for a zoo in another city. The next day I suggested we go for a walk, they ended up coming to our house again, we didn’t have a very fun day, but it was a fun day. They went home in the evening and after some time I went to see them. And again, we slept almost together that night, the beds were pushed together, we talked very closely at night, I hugged her, she reciprocated, lay on my shoulder, we even took pictures when I hugged her, and so we talked until 6 in the morning and went to bed. Waking up spent a close day. We had fun all day, lay together, went to the park in the evening, we took a lot of photos there, but that night we slept because we accidentally fell asleep. In the morning I had to leave and so did she. She went to accompany me to the bus while they were walking, I hugged her tightly and didn’t let go, uh, so we got to the bus, we stood hugging, when my bus arrived, I missed it for her sake, why stand next to her when another bus arrived, I decided she sat down on him, we hugged very tightly and for a long time and she let me go and I left. when we left for different cities together, we talked and I asked her if she had a close person with whom she was in a relationship, she said that she did, and I was surprised, I hugged her and didn’t let go, she didn’t even answer me, it even seemed to me that she liked it, I said that I would wait for her, I asked and she said that she had been dating someone else for 3 months. I asked her if she didn’t mind if I came to her and walked with her, she didn’t mind. I saw in her contact that someone wrote to her that he misses her, but maybe it’s just a coincidence. So I’m thinking about whether to go to her, what it will give me, I think if I constantly communicate with her, she will change her opinion about me. But I can’t live without her, I feel bad, as if there’s emptiness in my soul without her. Help me.

Hello!,
We live with a girl. She recently divorced her husband. They have a child together. I love her madly. But she can’t forget him, she says that she still loves him. This hurts me. I don't know what to do. The relationship begins to deteriorate. Help.

Fell in love with a girl.
But she turns out to be walking with me, saying “we don’t need to walk.” Although we kissed her.
Recently another guy gave her flowers and she was very happy about it.

Hello, I'm Lapin Roman, I met at the camp
With one very beautiful
As a girl I was afraid for half my shift
approach her but yesterday
I invited her to be mine
The girl and she said that
She loves someone else and didn’t even tell who, help the page
I love her very much and the shift is ending =((

Good afternoon. I decided to turn to men for advice. Maybe tell me what to do. My nephew, a wonderful young man of 17 years, studied with Levushka at school four last year. All love experiences are before our eyes. He is only her best friend; the girl was dating her nephew’s friend. She shared all her love affairs with her nephew, he advised, reconciled, supported and suffered. About a year ago, the girl moved to England for permanent residence and the distance slowly dulled her feelings. The nephew began to thaw out and date other girls. The girl maintained relationships with her boyfriend and nephew. Messages, notes, kind words and how dear he is to her and she can’t sleep thinking about him. And just as soon as my nephew left to study in America. A month ago. The girl is inflamed with feelings for her nephew, although her boyfriend is supposed to come live with her and is studying in England. Conversations until the morning about strong feelings for her nephew, her desire to be with him, requests to come simply drive him and his parents crazy. Don’t think, he keeps everything a secret, we find out from his brother. I’ve lost weight, I’m depressed and I’m ready to move away and quit my studies. I'm worried

Hello, here's the story. In general, I fell in love with one girl, and I understood that I was ready to do anything for her sake, but without asking, I had to go abroad for 4 years, we communicated on VK, but she read my messages less and less, and in the end she said that she had a soulmate, and I had 2 months left before I returned, then communication stopped, but I still love her, and I’m ready to do ANYTHING for her, I don’t know that guy, I asked him in hints a couple of times, she said that There’s no need to ask me anything, that’s the end of communication, what should I do?

Hello! I’ll tell you my story, I hope to get from you the advice I need on how to continue to behave in this situation, since I’m really in love and very determined. It all started very unexpectedly. Here is how it was. In the village where I’m from, where everyone knows each other, I saw a girl, I’ve seen her before, walking with her boyfriend, they even said hello a couple of times, but somehow I didn’t focus on her, but a pretty girl with a guy whom I know, but at one point, when I met her in a store, something happened to me, we said hello to each other and she fell into my soul, I just fell in love with her now, she’s 16, she’s in the 11th grade, I’m 23, I graduated from university this year, I work, so, immediately after our meeting, I went on social networks and started looking through photos, she was in a relationship then with this very familiar guy, he was 19.... the next day, strangely enough, we met her again in the same store and I understood at that moment when she smiled and said hello that I would do everything to get to know her better and start a relationship with her. I didn’t wait long, I just didn’t know where to start, I added her as a friend on VK, and the next day early in the morning I bought a rose and went to school. I waited for her at the entrance and here she comes, I said hello, handed over a rose, in response she was surprised and asked, what is this, why, I replied that this is for you, with this I show you my feelings (now I just understand how it all turned out stupid on my part and not thought through) she didn’t take the rose first, but stood there all confused. I said don’t be shy, take it and she took it and wished her Have a good day and said that everything will be fine, don’t worry. Then I came home and 2-3 hours after our meeting I wrote to her, hello, how are things at school? Are you in the mood? She replied that everything was fine, then I invited her to go for a walk, she did not agree, out of stupidity and not knowing how to communicate with girls correctly, I began to insist, she didn’t, then she wrote that she was too small for me and we were not on the same path, well I wrote to her as a joke, it’s okay, you’ll fall in love with me, after which she considered me narcissistic and removed me from her friends. On the same day, her boyfriend called me, asked what was going on and how and why I was interfering in their relationship, it was very inconvenient, but still I explained to him that I fell in love with her, I understand that you are in a relationship, but I see that you are dating and then breaking up and the girl really complains about the lack of attention and quarrels, so I decided to fix it on my own, I said that she got used to you and you take advantage of it, Santa Barbora in general. Well, of course we had a fight. I decided not to give up, bought flowers after a while and went to meet her at her house after school, but her boyfriend followed me, again everything went wrong, told me that she told you everything and deleted you and that he would not touch her, he gave her away He left the flowers, whether he gave them to me or himself, I don’t know. I was very upset and did nothing for 3 months, tried to forget her and move on, but still from time to time she appeared in my thoughts, I don’t know why this happened. I didn’t wish her Happy New Year or Happy Birthday, although I should have. In general, I couldn’t forget and after a while I remembered about her again, and so on in a circle, but I still held back my emotions. Spring came, it got warmer, we saw each other by chance, she and her little sister and friend were walking, I walked towards them, said hello and when I passed I immediately looked back and she looked back too, I stopped them and walked up, talked a little, paid attention to her youngest, who was still very little sister and moved on. Then we saw each other once more, everything was the same, and again we didn’t communicate for 3 months and didn’t see each other. I left for work, she was at home, by the way, she told her boyfriend about our meetings, who called me and visited me, but everything ended well, thank God. Just recently I was in Chelyabinsk visiting relatives, I went online and to her page, and then it started again, I started thinking about her. I even felt inspired and began to write on paper a love letter and poems that I wanted to convey, but it was not fate. I couldn’t find a place for myself; when I was on the train, I also wrote and thought only about her. Arriving in the village, the first thing I did was turn on the computer and write to her about my feelings for her, I was so inspired and there was simply no place to put my emotions. He was all emotional and couldn’t find a place for himself, for which he was added to the black list. And she also received an SMS from her new boyfriend or friend, telling her not to write something like that to her, since she doesn’t like my SMS and doesn’t want anything, I was surprised and called him for a conversation, when we met, I found out that he was her new boyfriend, but I also expressed my feelings to him and we parted. I immediately called her ex-boyfriend with whom she had been dating for 2.8 years, if you can call it that, oddly enough, we became friends that day, he said that he had not communicated with her for about 2-3 months and was puzzled and worried, How could a girl who is not indifferent to both of us, well-mannered and good, communicate with this person? Which is really not the way to go in our opinion and is not led by the most worthy and healthy image life, he is 22 years old by the way. We went to the park and saw Dasha there, the girl in question. She was sitting on a bench. We approached and started talking to her. In the end, it turned out that it was just her friend, the same unlucky one who decided to intercede after she complained, although perhaps he is not a friend but a guy, they just don’t want rumors to spread, so she said so, who knows. That day we saw her, talked normally, she wasn’t afraid of me at all, as I was told, but I don’t understand why I should complain, I said that she wouldn’t be afraid of me and that I like her very much. He offered her peace and no more text messages with confessions, shook hands with each other and went their separate ways. Yes, she also told me that I was charming and that it was time for me to have children and that everything would not happen as quickly as I wanted when I approached the school with a rose. When I came home, I saw a text from her, saying, why did you ruin my personal life and ruin my relationships, that there are few girls around, anyway, I won’t be friends with you, I didn’t answer anything because I was added to black. As I understand now, she is not indifferent to her ex, the statuses stand behind him, and this new one is not indifferent either, only he is an adult for her too, so she hides all this from everyone, and from her strict father, who is really strict about everything . Having left for a shift in Moscow about a week later, I began to write to her that let’s just communicate as friends, but she didn’t want anything and didn’t respond to my SMS, so I promised that I wouldn’t bother her anymore. A week passed and I couldn’t resist, I wrote again, this is what I wrote: (- Good Morning! Good mood to you! Well, I spoke a little about myself and her, these were my last SMS to her, just yesterday I wrote and zero emotions. Now I’m thinking where to start, let's say with a clean slate, if possible, and what to do next. I read a lot of your articles, which I really liked. I realized that I started in the wrong place and did a lot of stupid things, but that was what it was, no regrets It makes sense to remember. We need to move on and do something to make everything work out. At the moment we are 200 km away from each other, but I am always ready to come if necessary and spend time with her or do something pleasant, if, of course, she will be pleased with it. We rarely see each other, write or call and ask for a walk, she will not agree, and chance meetings happen rarely, so I don’t know what to do. Please advise where to start subsequent communication, of course I understand now that I should have started with small, but what happened cannot be returned, I now need to approach it with intelligence and common sense so that everything turns out well in my favor. Of course, I understand that I did something stupid and said something and only made the situation worse. But I believe that I will achieve her attention and reciprocal feelings. I will share my energy and strength with her without demanding anything in return. I will give her pleasant surprises and pay attention, but here’s where to start in my situation, so that again it doesn’t anger her and take her by surprise. On the contrary, she experienced positive emotions. In his own language he briefly described the most important thing that happened. I'm sure you can give me advice. Thank you

Hello! I am 23 years old. I liked a girl whom I have known for many years. you could say all your life. I've been chasing her for about 7 years. He showed signs of attention in every possible way, but it led to nothing. even sometimes, out of despair under the influence of alcohol, he carved her name on his body, etc., photographed all this and sent it to her. Then I realized that it was all in vain. Then, while serving in the army, we very rarely interacted with her, and somehow I even cooled off towards her. but the day before the demobilization, messages began to come from her “dear beloved, etc.” I was still surprised then, what happened to her? And why does she write like that? I did not understand. Upon arrival home, everything was decided in one evening. It turned out that she wrote to me as a friend. I didn’t expect such a knife in the back. As the years passed, she changed guys like gloves, but I, in turn, could not forget her. I tried to get out of the habit of her, met other girls, built relationships (not long), but as soon as I saw her, everything started all over again. then he gave her a bouquet of flowers, which she did not expect. and that same evening, after the party, she and I were left alone. hugs, kisses, my declarations of love, asking for forgiveness for all the bad things I did and said to her. I didn't even think about sex. we spent the night together. In the morning I rushed to work with kilometer-long steps, digesting the events of the night. then they corresponded on social networks as friends. My birthday came, and I felt wild because she was the first to congratulate me and call me “my dear, you are the best, I respect you, I appreciate you.” you are more valuable than everyone." and now her neutrality towards me has begun again. and she explains all this by saying that she loves another, but the other pays 0 attention to her. and now I don’t understand what to do after this

Hello! My name is Evgeniy. My best friend, whom we were friends with in childhood and then didn’t see each other for 10 years, came to our homeland and met. I introduced him to my girlfriend with whom we had been together for 4 years, but during that time we separated for 2 months. I lived with another woman and she lived at my parents. 1 year and 6 months have passed, everything seems to have been settled and forgotten. he came as a friend. after a while I began to notice that my friend was hiding from me, didn’t want to communicate with me, and I learned from him that he fell in love with my woman and she fell in love with him, and what should I do now? I can’t let her go, I love her very much, but I know that she loves him, please advise what should I do?

Good evening, tell me what to do!!
I dated a girl for more than a year and a half, everything was very good, but one fine day, through my fault, we stopped communicating with her, there was no communication with her for less than two months, after which I wrote to her on social networks that I wanted to return her, At first, she didn’t even seem to mind meeting me again, since she told me more than once that everything in our relationship suited her.
And so, after a month of our communication, I began to understand that the person no longer treats me so warmly, does not write first, does not call, although I would be very happy about this!!!
One day I was infuriated by her attitude towards me and I asked “what happened?!”
But she answered me that after our separation the feelings had already cooled down and she was in love with another person, this news simply depressed me, I didn’t know what to do and what to do
Help me with advice on what to do and what to do, please.

Hello. I met a girl and fell in love with her. The girl considers herself an introvert and says that she does not like touching. S tried to build a relationship with her. She either answered with a categorical refusal, or went to the meeting. I behaved very wrongly with her, was intrusive, confessed my love to her and constantly talked about my feelings. He broke down several times. She always told me that she doesn't love me. She recently met a guy (he lives in another country) who fell in love with her and she reciprocates his feelings. She told me about this and said that she wanted to be with him. I love her so much. What should I do? I really need help.

I met a girl. We became good friends and gradually became attracted to her. She also liked me for a while, but then she began to feel strong sympathy for another person. She talks about him all the time, and I fall into apathy after that. I love her, but what should I do?
Please tell me!

Hello, I fell in love with a girl for exactly a year now, I love her! I once persuaded her to be with me and everything was fine until that guy appeared whom she secretly loved and with the help of me she tried to forget him! Now we broke up with her, I let her go to him, but she asked me to stay with her because she said that she loved me too, but me as a brother and said that she would return to me if nothing worked out with him! I can’t do this anymore, he kisses her, hugs her, etc., in front of my eyes, and it gives me terrible pain, but I don’t want to leave her because she is the meaning of my life. I really ask you to help me with advice on what I should do and how to make her choose me!

Hello. The following situation occurred. I talked with a girl for a long time and did not feel sympathy because I was dating someone else. But then I fell in love with her. During one of the walks, she told me that she used to love me. Recently I said about my feelings, to which she said that she has a boyfriend and that I am an invaluable friend to her and she wants to continue to be friends. What to do??

Hello, I met a girl not long ago. At first we were just friends, and then I fell in love with her very much, although I knew that she had a boyfriend. We have already known each other for 3 months, and now the moment has come when she leaves her boyfriend, I was of course happy, but she immediately tells me that there is another guy whom she has loved for 5 years, and I don’t know what to do, I just need she and no one else! Help please!

I fell in love with a girl since the 8th grade, I’m now in the 8th grade, at first I called her to go for a walk, we walked for three days and then I called her, she agreed, but we never met and didn’t go out because she either had something in pain or she was busy, and so on everyone once. She didn’t date me, but it seems to me that she loves me too, but she dates other guys, she only lasts for a short month, I’m used to hugging her and I can’t stop, even though her boyfriend forbade me, and when she breaks up with porn, I don’t talk about it I find out and am afraid to even suggest that I met. Signs by which it seems to me that she also likes me: when I smile at her, she looks into my eyes and smiles back; she also likes it when I hug her, but not at all, although I hug her more often at school. I I love her very much and unfortunately my love has always been long, I’ve liked the girl for at least 3 years. And I’ve never fought with other boys from the class and in general I only fought with classmates. I’m in 4th place in terms of strength, maybe more, since I kill almost everyone except one.

Hello. I have a friend in college with whom we communicate very well. He had a girlfriend at that time, but his relationship with her quickly ended. After that, I began to support her, became stronger friends with this girl than before we were just acquaintances. And of course, I began to show sympathy for her. And a month ago I realized that I was not indifferent to her. And yesterday I gathered my courage and confessed my love to her. After that, the next conversation awaited me. I told her that I liked her, she was surprised. After which she says that she has been liking another person for a year now. Now I’m sitting here, I don’t know what to do. I'm crazy about her, I love her very much. Please help me with something

Hello
I met a girl. She's pretty and attractive. Well, in general, she is what I need. We met, gave gifts, she was pleased. Then her relationship with me changed dramatically. She told me that she loves someone else. Yes, I admit, after that I got out of control. It was me who showed the bad side of myself. That's probably why she accepts me as a friend. Now she doesn't even want to meet. I told her about my life. Well, life is not easy for me. When I call, he doesn’t pick up. In short, you probably understand. How can I get out of this situation?
I love her and don’t want to lose her (ever).

Hello, I met a girl in the game, her friend invited her to a common clan, then she was added to the conversation on Viber, I immediately liked her, in the conversation we talked, then it turned out that person loved her too, it turned out that they had been in the place before, but she left in Poland for half a year, he got married, has a daughter, from the conversation between them I realized that he has a mistress, while he confessed his love to her, when I write in the chat she is silent, when he writes she immediately answers, today she wrote in the chat him to call her, she doesn’t answer me willingly either in chat or in PM, I invited her to come on an excursion, she wrote that she might come, one of these days she will go to Poland, I wrote that I could go if you don’t mind, she replied “then we could become friends.”

Good evening! I have this situation. We dated one girl for about 2 months during school days. I was in 11th grade, and she was in 9th grade. After school, we sort of broke up due to my mistake. I thought that I would meet someone else. As it turned out, I expected a lot. I never met a girl after her. 3 years have already passed, and I still love her, so to speak. 3 months ago we corresponded somehow. There was a conversation about “give me a chance”, etc. I scored on the girl. But at times I began to remember more and again wanted to talk and return. I found her number. I wrote, but was immediately blocked after she recognized me. A week ago I sent flowers to her house with a note. Three days later I decided to call, the dial tone went off and I was surprised that she unblocked me. But she hung up or didn’t pick up. I decided not to impose myself. The next day I wrote on another phone. It all started with a banal “hi, how are you?” And he asked her, “Did you like the flowers?” And he asked her to unblock me. She says the answer is obvious, for now. And I wanted to persuade her to talk, saying that we are not small to avoid conversation. She says that she quarreled with her boyfriend because of me, and if we meet, it will be even worse. That's why I don't want to. That's how our conversation ended. And what should be the mock action?

Hello, the same situation happened, at first I started communicating with the girl just in a friendly manner, then everything turned to the fact that she is not indifferent, I am ready to drop everything and come to her to support, listen, etc. But the problem is that she loves my friend, they even dated for a while. But something didn’t work out for them, and I thought, here’s my chance, I need to act, but I found out that they still communicate and perhaps there are rifts between them. My friend is in the army now. And I’ve been suffering like this for 2 years now, maybe even more. Once we were talking to her, she said that she was not indifferent to me. But she also sees only a friend and a clown who can cheer you up, have fun, etc.
Tell me what to do?

Hello, Vitaly! My name is Tikhon. It’s a very difficult situation, I’ve known a girl for a year now, we’re 17 years old, and I recently realized that I really like her, and even more than that... But one problem arose - I was late. While I was making up my mind and thinking about whether all this was really happening to me, another person was able to win her heart. I know that if I rush, I will ruin everything, and therefore I don’t tell her anything, and I don’t admit my feelings. That guy smokes and is not very physically developed, I try to lead a healthy lifestyle, I have been involved in sports since I was 5 years old (MMA, ARB, sambo). I recently heard her discussing that person with her friend, saying how good she feels with him, and how kind he is, etc…. All this is very difficult, my soul hurts very much, it is very difficult to pretend that everything is normal, because I am afraid to do anything, because I have never been in such situations before... Please help your useful advice, is it worth focusing on this at all? Or is it better to give up on everything? Sometimes it seems that everything is hopeless, all the pain develops into anger, and only the realization that she feels good somehow calms her down... I beg you, please help...
Thanks a lot!

Some strange situation happened to me...
The girl and I were just friends...
Afterwards she knew that I liked her...
We talked with her for a very long time, until my best friend appeared...
I just stand and calmly look at how everything is going wrong with them, and in my soul there is a stone, a flame, a black hole......
After all, I am her for real, and his dick is more valuable to him than relationships with others...

There is a girl whom I breathe. She's everything to me.
But she doesn't love me.
We met about 7 years ago and dated at a distance, I often came to see her. Of course I understood that this would not last long. We broke up.
After 4 years, we started communicating again, she broke up with her boyfriend and it was very difficult for her to worry about it, she asked me to come.
I understood that most likely nothing would work out and they only needed me to cry into my vest.
At first it was like that, but with each passing time I realized more and more that I was falling in love again, and even more, the strange thing was that she reciprocated, we enjoyed each other more and more.
But on one of those days, her ex-boyfriend called her and she burst into tears, I calmed her down and realized that she still loved him, loved him as she never loved me, of course it caused me great pain, but I endured it, because it’s crazy love her.
I did everything for her to make her happy. But her calls and texts ex-boyfriend spoiled everything. Although she told me that she would never return to him, that he did a lot of bad things to her, he did not want to get married, did not want children, saying that he simply did not need it.
On the contrary, I was ready for anything, and we sometimes discussed future children and marriage.
But one day she said that she couldn’t love me and wanted to get back into a relationship with him.
I have never been in such pain before.
But I love her very much and I don’t know what to do next, I understand that I was simply taken advantage of and abandoned, but I still want to be with her. This makes me sick, but I can’t help it, I still want to be with her.
What to do?

hello my name is Ali. I can’t get out of this situation. I fell in love with her a year ago every day I saw her and she didn’t turn on me for a year. A year later I found out that she loved someone else. I talked to her on VK for 4 days and on the 4th day I invited her for a walk, she said that she couldn’t and she ran away. When I came home I saw a message from her, she wrote, I have a loved one, she said that she learned from someone that I wanted to date her. And she added me to her blacklist. Her boyfriend should come from another city in five or six days, he says that when I arrive we will ask who she loves and I know that she will choose him. please help me what to do, how to make her fall in love in a week...

My love loves friends. She knows that I love her. we have known each other for 3 years

Good afternoon
I did it like this.
My wife eats seed
But it turned out that I fell in love with a girl with all my heart, I only saw her a couple of races and corresponded simply because we had nothing to friends. We have a 16-year age difference
I feel that she real love but she had another childhood friend
I told her I fell in love with her, she said she was shocked by me
What should I do, do I have a chance?

Hello Vitaly! I met my friend 4 years ago, we knew each other for literally 1 hour, the next day I went abroad and we didn’t communicate at all for 3 years, and recently I was on a social network and saw that she was online and wrote to her just out of boredom (I missed my homeland and friends). It turned out that during my absence she had several boyfriends, but she often thought about me, apparently I made a really good impression on her. but after 2 months of our communication through Skype and the social network, she suddenly said that it was better for us not to communicate and that we have different lives, she loves another (and this other one moved to Italy and calls her to his place). After a short time, I returned to my homeland, thought about her, but she sank into my soul so much that I did not want to ruin her relationship and decided to wait. And a week ago, her friend saw me and immediately told her that she had seen me and that I had returned. In the evening she found my new number and reprimanded me, saying why I didn’t call and tell her that I had arrived, etc. We met and she was really trembling and I saw that she really felt something for me, not as a friend but more, I hugged her and heard her heart flying out of her chest, she was stunned and delighted with the meeting. She calls me in the evenings when she’s alone, but from time to time she reminds me that she loves someone else and that she’s just confused; in general, she herself can’t explain what’s happening to her. Can you please tell me what to do. I'm ready for anything because I know that I will bring her happiness that that guy won't give her

I met a girl abroad. We talked for quite a long time, walked, kissed, gave small treats. Then I asked her to meet and after a couple of weeks she said that she couldn’t be my girlfriend. So she didn’t really tell me anything. I didn’t understand right away, then I bought flowers in my fist for her. I talked to her 1 on 1 so that she could explain it to me. She replied that she has a boyfriend, they have been dating for quite a long time, but at the time when I met her they were in conflict and are now in conflict. I told her if she wants to return everything, then let her act. She hasn't spoken to him in two weeks

So, who are they who think: I love a girl, and she will love another. In such a situation, when “I love” means pain, it is easier to understand by understanding the feelings. That's probably why we'll just try to talk on behalf of a young man who loves. His beloved girl was taken by another. Not by force, but by feelings. And for the sake of this other, she tries to hide her emotions. But he is the one who says “I love you” so sincerely and honestly. It is he who is ready to lift this girl to heaven. Why does she love another and is it really love? And most importantly, how to defeat this other?

Well, let's imagine the situation and listen to the young man. This story will be an example of those situations when a guy, meeting a woman, wants to find a real serious relationship. Therefore, for people who just want to find a girl for a while, such questions and their solutions will not be relevant. This situation is modeled specifically for those who see the meaning of life in their loved one.

So, let's begin. I met this girl without thinking that she would have a place in my life. She was just sweet, positive and funny. From the very beginning I knew that she was in love with someone else and when they had conflicts, I was sincerely sorry. But then, over time, I realized that I was experiencing more than just friendly feelings. Time passed and everything changed. I felt that our friendship was growing into sympathy, and then into love. I knew it was wrong, so I kept quiet about what I dreamed about and what I wanted.

But, at some point, I realized that she also felt something for me. It’s just that her conscience doesn’t allow her to show her feelings. She loves this one, that one, but she also experiences a kind of love for me. I realized this after she confessed her feelings to me. I understand that I have no right to force her to do anything. I always try to restrain myself, because I understand that she is simply afraid to rush and ruin everything. And with me. And with him. But I also realize that I can't tolerate this forever. Someday, probably, even perhaps without wanting to, I will present her with a choice. And I don't want her to get hurt. But I don’t want to suffer myself either. Therefore, of course, I would not like to go to such extreme measures. But, on the other hand, such a love triangle will also not lead to anything good. Therefore, looking at how she looks at me, how she worries, how she wants to be close, I often wonder how much she loves him. And if he loves, then why is he so drawn to me? I don’t want to ruin my relationship with her, but at the same time, I want to achieve her, I just don’t understand how best to do it. That is why I really want to know what to do in such situations, and, most importantly, should I expect that she will still love and choose me. Go ahead, try to forget her, try to be a good friend and never look for a way to become the person she spends her life with.

Here's the story. It should be noted that it is absolutely real, and this happened not only to this young man. There are plenty of guys who find themselves in these situations and genuinely try to handle them the right way. The only problem is that not everyone succeeds. What can you answer to such a young man and how should he behave further?

Firstly, it must be said that he is very lucky if he sees that he really cares about the girl. It would be worse if she did not notice a man in him at all. And if she does not want to take a more serious step just because her conscience does not allow her, it means that she is already thinking about too many things that her conscience has to cry about. In such situations, you need to be glad that the lady of your heart still experiences clearly unfriendly feelings. This means he really has a chance, you just need to behave correctly.

So, what specific actions can be recommended? First, in some cases it is better to do nothing. For example, you should not show your desire for this girl. If she is worried about her feelings, then she will worry even more when the young man tries to show his emotions in physical form. That is why you should not try to hug and kiss a lady. She must take this step herself. It is when a girl decides to do such an act that, in essence, her choice will be made. Even in one kiss her feelings will manifest and, most likely, after that she will leave the other guy and come to this particular young man. Such women do not know how to lie, so such a choice only means that she has already decided who exactly she wants to be with.

What else can you advise in such a situation? Probably, we should not forget that every person has his own shortcomings. That is why, if a guy sees that the other guy is doing something that the girl doesn’t like, you can try to show yourself in the best light compared to him. Just don’t go out of your way and try to prove that her boyfriend is bad. In general, there is no need to speak negatively about him, because a feeling of protest may awaken in the girl, and she will begin to defend him. And this is not necessary at all. Simply, you need to show your best sides, which can be used as a counterbalance to the bad qualities of the other guy. This affects women and, consciously or subconsciously, she will understand that this particular young man is the best. It is really difficult for some girls to choose, because she has already become accustomed to someone, and someone unexpectedly burst into her life. But, if you act correctly and don’t rush things, you can make sure that she chooses exactly the guy who suddenly realized his love for her and wants to do everything just to be together. You just need to become her knight, who never imposes himself, but, nevertheless, appears exactly when it is so needed.

Every person wants love. We are all born in love, grow with love and go out into the adult world in search of true and pure love. However, one problem arises here: often people fall in love with those who do not love them back, or it is simply impossible to find a person with whom they would like to fall in love. Let's consider this version of the situation when a girl considers a guy a friend. How to make her fall in love with you?

Guys and girls can still be friends, although many do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman. Adolescence is still devoid of such prejudices, so a girl may want to maintain friendly ties with a guy. There are cases when a girl has known a guy for a long time, so she perceives him as a friend by inertia. They have been friends since childhood, so she doesn’t look at him any other way.

There are times when a girl is friends with a guy because she cannot date him, but he is so good (that is, useful to her) that she is not ready to part with him. Even ex-lovers can be friends. Of course, it is unlikely that there is friendship between them, but one of them definitely intends to be friends and nothing more.

There are many situations when a girl can only offer a guy friendship. Should we really give up and do nothing? Is it possible to somehow change the situation?

A dilemma often arises when guys wonder how to make girls fall in love with them. At some point in time, boys and girls stop being friends, and begin to take an adult interest in each other. This is a natural stage of development. And when falling in love begins, guys have a lot of questions, because girls turn out to be complex and different creatures than guys.

What is falling in love? This is the feeling of a young person who is overwhelmed by positive emotions regarding a specific object. Falling in love makes a person live in illusion. He often sees not the real partner with whom he is in love, but some ideal image that seems to him or that his lover could be.

This happens with a guy who could already ask a girl to date, but she can only answer him with friendship. Often, guys simply do not see the shortcomings and flaws of the girls they are in love with. All this thanks to the feeling of love. That is why they are ready to pursue the objects of their love, no matter what. However, over time, love fades:

1. If it was unrequited, then often the feelings simply subside.
2. If the love was mutual, then it can develop into true love.

How to make a girl fall in love with you? You should remain yourself, while demonstrating the following aspects of your personality:

• Confidence.
• Good manners.
• Elegance.
• Courtesy.
• Attentiveness.

The guy needs to get rid of such external manifestations of insecurity as excitement, suspiciousness, anxiety, confused phrases, and lethargy.

Psychologists say that guys with low self-esteem always have problems with the opposite sex. Women don't like insecure losers. If the guy is like this, then he will have to become different. To help yourself with this, you can go to trainings or use these recommendations:

1. Surround yourself with people who will support you.
2. Think positively.
3. Value and respect yourself.
4. Be attentive and sympathetic to others, which gives a man a feeling of reliability and security.

How to make a girl fall in love with you if she considers you a friend?

Why does a girl consider a guy a friend? This question must first be answered in order to understand what reason should be eliminated. If a girl doesn’t like the guy’s appearance, then he should take care of himself: go to the gym, get himself in order. If a girl thinks a guy is unkempt and unfashionable, then he should take care of his appearance: buy fashionable clothes, maintain hygiene, do his hair, etc. If a girl says that the guy is not interested in her and simply doesn’t know her, then you need to find out about her hobbies, interests, desires.

Why is life cruel when it allows people to fall in love with those who do not return the same feeling? They love you, but you don't love you. They love you, but they don’t love you. Where's the justice? In fact, everything is natural. Nobody forces a person to love someone who does not reciprocate, just as he is not obliged to love everyone who loves him. We can say that a person makes his own choice when he begins to suffer and continue to fight for the love of a partner who no longer wants to reciprocate warm feelings.

When it comes to love, people cite the fact that feelings are difficult to manage. This is true, but only half. It's hard to manage what you don't understand. But if a person understands why he may not love each other, then he will have a chance to get rid of his unrequited suffering.

Why does a person love those who do not love him? This is a habit that comes from childhood. For the most part, parents rarely show love to their children. In single-parent families, one of the parents is missing, that is, the children do not receive love from him. In other families, parents are so busy with their work and worries that they do not devote time to their children. In still other families, parents show indifference to their own children: they hire nannies to educate them. Fourthly, mothers and fathers are simply so passionate about their lives that children grow up on their own.

If in childhood a person grew up among parents who did not show love to their child, then he learns to love those who do not love him. Thus, the parents themselves teach the child to love those who do not reciprocate. This is sometimes called “understanding what love is.” In this article we will simply call it a habit. Since a child always loves his parents unconditionally, no matter what they do, he gets used to receiving exactly the love that they give. If a person loved, and his parents treated him indifferently, or paid very little attention, or constantly compared him with someone, or criticized him and forced him to be good in order to receive their recognition, then he gets used to exactly this form of love towards himself. Becoming an adult, a person begins to love. And it is quite natural that he falls in love with those who show him the same attitude that his parents showed him in childhood.

Thus, the form of love that your parents (or siblings you hold dear) showed you as a child dictates who you will start to fall in love with. You will love. But the people you are interested in will show you the kind of attitude to which you have been accustomed since childhood. You may suffer from unrequited love. But you may notice that for some reason you don’t love those people who fall in love with you. This is all because you are not used to loving those who love you. You are more accustomed to loving only people who reject you. Do you understand the mechanism?

A person loves in adulthood the same way he did in childhood. Whatever attitude parents show towards a person in childhood, the partners he chooses will treat him the same way. A person gets used to loving only those who demonstrate parental behavior. And if a person’s parents did not love him very much, rejected him, or showed indifference, then he will only love people who show such an attitude. At the same time, all applicants who show sincere love will be rejected, since a person is not accustomed to love when they love him.

The same thing happens with a guy who loves a girl who considers him her friend. He loves because she is friends with him, otherwise he would not love her.

You can make a girl fall in love with you, even if she considers you her friend. To do this you should do:

1. Become the kind of guy she wants to see next to her, that is, change, fit herself into this image.
2. Don't run after the girl, be a little inaccessible. Here you can also start hanging out with other girls to make your beloved, who is currently rejecting you, jealous.
3. Be generous. If a girl asks for something, then help. If she needs your attention, then give it to her.
4. Be independent from the opinions of parents, friends and other people. Girls love independent, wayward guys.

How to make your ex-girlfriend fall in love with you?

Often it is not your friend who has to fall in love with you, but your ex-girlfriend. Due to inexperience and heated emotions, young people break up. If you want to win back the love of your ex-girlfriend again, then use the following tips:

• Analyze the reasons for your separation. Why was the girl unhappy? What didn't she like about the guy? What complaints and reproaches were there on her part? Since this guy wants to win back his ex's love, he will have to change. You should remove from your character and behavior those flaws that the girl could not come to terms with. You need to become what she wants you to be.
• Arrange up to 3 random meetings with your ex. The main emphasis here is on friendly communication between former partners. There should be no memories, love words, requests or pleas to come back. You just have to communicate like friends. At the same time, you must show yourself in a modified form. You have become ambitious, self-confident, purposeful, active. The girl will be hurt by the fact that such a cool guy is no longer hers, and she will want to return to you.
• Be an interesting conversationalist and pleasantly surprise from time to time. Start communicating on topics that interest the girl. Start doing things that will make your ex happy, but she never expected to see them from you.

Still come to your ex's aid. Give her support. She must understand that she can rely on you in difficult times.

How to make your friend's girlfriend fall in love with you?

It's quite a sticky situation when you like a friend's girlfriend. Here you must first make a firm decision for yourself: either you continue to be a friend, but then you stop thinking about the girl, or you begin to win the girl, but you will have to forget about friendship.

If friendship is important to you, then try to minimize meetings with his girlfriend. Get yourself involved with other girls or some activities, hobbies, concerns.

If you still understand that the girl is important to you, then start courting her. Always be in her sight. Come to her aid in difficult times. Make her fall in love with you when she is in a fight with your friend.

Bottom line

It is quite possible to make a girl fall in love with you. All that remains is to decide whether you really need it. After all, it happens that fate creates a situation of unrequited love for a reason. Maybe just be yourself and look for someone who will love you that way?

Imagine that you have met a cute girl and are going to ask her out on a date. Suddenly she casually mentions that she has a boyfriend. Your heart sinks. A lot of guys have been through this situation and it's not easy. You need to respect other people's relationships. But this does not mean that you cannot be this girl's friend. You don't need to convince her to break up with her boyfriend, but maybe someday she will be alone again and you will have a chance!

Steps

Part 1

Find out about her interests. You need to ask questions if you want to make friendships work. By showing interest in her hobbies, you will get to know each other better. Even random questions help you get to know a person better.

• Ask her to describe herself. This is a quick way to get to know her personality. This is a shortcut on your part, but she will have to describe herself honestly.
• Find out what makes her proud. Positive questions will allow her to talk about achievements, character traits and skills.
• Ask a variety of questions about your “favorite” things—movies, TV shows, or music. You may have common interests that will certainly bring you closer.
• Find out her opinion about what interests you. If you ask her opinion about your hobbies, she will understand that you value her views.

1. Compliment her character. Even if the girl is attractive to you in appearance, you are now trying to become her friend, and not to hit on her. Try to avoid complimenting her appearance to avoid making her feel uncomfortable, especially if she has a boyfriend. Instead, you can praise her personality traits that you like.

   • Women are pleased when they are valued for their deeds or personal qualities, and not for their appearance. If you happened to see her participate in a theater production and you liked it, then don't forget to tell her about it. Talk about her positive traits that you saw.
   • The most important thing is that the compliments be sincere. There is no need to quote movie characters or phrases from the Internet. Share with her what delighted you.
   • Women appreciate compliments, but it is important to respect personal space. Don't overdo it with praise, otherwise it may look like desperation or feigned irony.

2. Help her. There are different ways to express love for a person. When it comes to friendship, you can express friendly love. By providing a free service to a person, you show your participation.

   • Such services can range from helping her prepare dinner to offering to drive her to a meeting. People often need help, so being helpful is easy.
   • Remember that they are judged not by words, but by deeds. You can give compliments as much as you like, but you need to show your friendship through actions. Mutual assistance cements friendship better than any words.

3. Make her laugh. Laughter is the best medicine; it lifts your spirits and can strengthen relationships between friends. The girl will definitely like your humor. It will help smooth out any embarrassment or awkwardness that may arise at the initial stage of dating.

   • Laughter creates a positive connection between people. Any friendship is built on positive relationships.

4. Come up with jokes that only you two can understand. Sharing jokes that others don't understand will make your communication more intimate and will also help strengthen your friendship.

   Part 2

   Earn Trust

   1. Don't flirt. This is extremely important. If you like the girl, then try not to think about romance at all for now. This is not easy, but you should understand for yourself: you can be either her friend or nothing at all. Don't ruin your friendship by showing your feelings, don't put yourself in an awkward position.

      Behave the same way you would with male friends. Seeing this, she will begin to trust you and understand that you are not putting on a show. You don't have to be rude and vulgar; it's enough just not to try to impress her with every action you take.

      Devote time to her. To strengthen a friendship, it is important to sometimes devote your undivided attention to it. Spending time together will have a positive effect on your friendship. At the same time, do not forget that you are just friends.

      • An important aspect of having a good time is good conversation. Always make eye contact and listen carefully. Don't be distracted by other things during the conversation.
      • Compliments and help alone are not enough to build trust. Do not waste time talking with her, let her express everything that is on her soul. This is what creates trust among friends.

   2. Comfort her. As your friendship develops, don't be afraid to give it the attention it needs. If she is going through a difficult period in her life, then try to console her. In case of trouble, lend a helping hand. She shouldn't feel lonely.

      • Things can get a little more complicated if she's having relationship problems. Show kindness and support. Don't let personal feelings influence the situation. First of all, you are friends.
      • Help her make decisions, but don't insist that you're right. You don't need to command, but you shouldn't remain a passive observer either.
      • If necessary, let her cry. If you are capable of emotional support at this level, then she will be immensely grateful to you.

   3. Listen. To gain trust, you need to listen to all her problems. Become an active listener. You must be able to repeat everything you hear, as well as express your opinion about it. Listen carefully, even if you fundamentally disagree with her. You will still have the opportunity to express your opinion, but first it must be fully expressed.

      • Do not be distructed. Sit close enough so you don't lose track of the conversation. Try to focus all your attention on it, while remembering every detail.

   4. Share your own experiences. Once you've listened to her, it won't hurt you to open up a little to her yourself. Emotional intimacy requires telling stories about yourself. It's important to be an active listener, but it takes two vulnerable parties to build trust.

      • For trust to occur, there must be an unspoken contact between you. Give attention to what she needs, but she should also be able to be involved.
      • People love to listen to others. Don't be embarrassed to talk about yourself. You deserve to be heard.

   Part 3

   Tell me how you feel

   1. You should understand that this can ruin your friendship. If you find it difficult to remain just friends, then you can reveal the truth. Don't forget that this is somewhat selfish. This will cause her a lot of headaches, because you couldn’t accept that she was already busy. By telling her how you feel, you can stop even being just friends.

      Be sensitive. Always express your feelings sensibly. Discuss this without becoming rude or putting pressure on her. Your revelation may well surprise her, so try not to put her in an awkward position.

      • Any accusations (even unintentional ones) will hurt her. Don't try to make the situation look like it's her fault. Try to convey the following message: “I hope you don’t think that I’m betraying our friendship, but every moment I like you more and more. I know you like someone else and I'm not going to come between you. Just know that if you ever develop feelings for me, I will be happy about it.”
      • Express your feelings correctly, starting with the words “I feel that.” If you say, “You made me feel like...” and then describe your emotional state, it will sound accusatory.
      • Express your feelings from your point of view, it should be your subjective experience. She shouldn't feel like a victim.

   2. Respect her situation. Don't forget that she is already dating another guy or likes someone else. Even if you think you are more suitable for her, you are putting her in an uncomfortable position. After all, she also has her own thoughts, plans, hopes and dreams. Her relationship gives her peace and security, and now you are trying to change all this.

      • Look for verbal cues when talking to her about this. If a girl tries to change the subject, she clearly feels uncomfortable. If she doesn't want to talk about it, then be brief and then let her be alone.

   3. You need to understand its boundaries. If you have a strong friendship, then you should be aware of its boundaries. It is important not to cross them when communicating this information. Even if you have already had physical intimacy, this situation will be a little different.